I Teach…

fear11We’ve discussed how coaches can succeed, but I’d like to talk a little today about how both you and your coach can fail. There are many reasons for a failure to happen—and they often do—but why? Let’s find out…

Both Parties Have to Want It

All too often, coaches are assigned to people who don’t think they need help or don’t want help. Imagine being approached after delivering a speech and being told by that person that your boss thinks you need a coach to help with your presentations. The immediate reaction of most people would be, “I don’t need help. I’m doing just fine.”

For coaching to be truly successful, the person receiving the coaching must want it. Otherwise, it will be like dragging a horse behind you with one hand tied behind your back. Eventually, you may succeed, but not without a series of constant uphill battles.

When Your Coach Shouldn’t Be Coaching

Anyone can call himself or herself a coach. But that doesn’t mean they have the expertise or the experience to improve your condition. Before engaging the services of a coach, ask them to provide specific examples of how they have helped people with similar objectives to yours achieve their full potential. Ask questions regarding their background, and don’t be afraid to probe deeply. There are lots of coaches who have no business coaching. Make sure yours doesn’t fall into this category.

Coaching in Perpetuity

An effective coach works with their clients to set objectives and measurements of success before the engagement begins. The coach gets the job done within an agreed upon time period and disengages when their work is done. Compare this to the model where a coach comes in to work on a specific issue and never leaves the organization. A good coach knows when his work is done and encourages their clients to soar on their own.

You Have a Mentor, but Not a Coach

Lots of people think they have coaches when in fact they have mentors. Ask one hundred people to explain the difference between a coach and a mentor, and you will most likely get a hundred different answers. Most people would agree, however, that there is a difference. Before you start looking around for a coach, you must determine what specifically you are looking to gain from this type of relationship. Once you’ve answered this question, you’ll know whether your needs are best served by a mentor or a coach.

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I Speak…

coachLast week, we touched upon a problem many public speakers have. That problem is not knowing how to breathe correctly. Now, we all know that we are born with the ability to breathe—but to breathe correctly when speaking in public is another thing altogether. I thought it might be a good idea to share a few tips with you about correct breathing—tips you can take with you and help turn your speaking engagements into huge successes. This week, we will discuss relaxing before your speaking engagement, so these are tips to help you breathe to relax. Let’s try them out!

Deep Breathing Means Relaxing

For those who do not regularly practice deep breathing, they may not know all the health benefits. Learning how to properly deep breathe, and letting that breath fill your lungs and travel through your whole body, can help you to relax and take on anything that may be going on in your life. This is at the heart of your well-being and healthy living, so it is crucial to learn how to deep breathe properly and practice it regularly.

Breathing for Better Health

Deep breathing and learning to embrace this practice is part of healthy living and well-being. Learning to embrace it, and develop and practice breathing patterns that work for you, is a huge part of living the best life possible.

Exhale Longer Than Your Inhale

You should be letting the exhale take twice as long as the inhale to get the most out of it. This will take some practice. Take the time to take each breath in but then take twice as long to let it out so that you can really feel it throughout your whole body.

What Stress?

Stress can be easily melted away if you learn how to make deep breathing a part of your life. As you feel the stress coming on and starting to settle within your body, take the time to step away and take a few good deep breaths to allow the stress to simply melt away in no time.

What Pain? Is Pain Distracting You?

There is a reason why women in labor practice breathing exercises — it really does help with the worst pain!   By practicing deep breathing exercises, you can block out the pain and focus instead on this therapeutic exercise for your well-being.

Stretch for Well-Being

Yoga is a great part of a healthy lifestyle, not just for the exercise that it brings, but for the stretching and breathing that it incorporates. When you are stretching and focusing on your breathing, you are working on your overall well-being, and this can work wonders for your physical and mental well-being.

Breath Yourself to Energy

As you take in deep breaths, you will feel rejuvenated, and this brings natural energy to your body. Learning to take breath in the appropriate way and holding it will pour energy onto every bone and muscle in your body, which will bring you the natural energy you are seeking.

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Why Using A Ghost Writer Could Make Your Business Flourish

writingYou have all the time in the world. You can write your own blog articles. But why would you want to? This article is all about your brand—the brand of your company and how using a content writer can help your brand grow infinitely stronger. You are a business owner—you really shouldn’t be writing your own content or that book about your product. You should be running your business. Let your ghost writer build the brand and be the voice of the company…

Enhance Your Brand Image

When you use a ghostwriter, you’re able to increase the amount of content you produce, and thereby, enhance your brand image. More content equals more visibility, which ultimately results in more traffic and increased conversions. That right there is reason enough to hire a business ghostwriter.

More, More, More

When you hire a ghostwriter, you’re able to maximize productivity within your company. You no longer have to delegate writing responsibilities to employees who could be using their time better. You also don’t have to waste precious hours of your own week coming up with new ideas. A ghostwriter can pitch and write quality content for your business, allowing everyone to do what they do best.

Better Quality

Let’s be honest, you’re a business owner, not a writer. And while you probably write well enough to get by, the fact of the matter is your brand deserves a professional writer. You wouldn’t throw just anyone into the role of accountant would you? Well, then, why are you using non-writers to write your brand’s most visible content? Hiring a ghostwriter allows you to keep the same brand visibility, while leveraging higher quality work.

Speedy Turnaround

Have you ever had an idea for a blog or news article but just can’t seem to get it written and published quickly enough for it to be relevant? Well, with a ghostwriter you can drastically improve turnarounds. For the right price, you may even be able to have a piece pitched, written and published in a matter of hours. That’s invaluable when you’re trying to beat out the competition and establish your brand as a thought leader in your industry.

It’s Cost-Effective…

Ultimately, ghostwriters are extremely cost-effective for businesses. In most cases, you’ll simply hire them as independent contractors. That means you’re not responsible for employer-provided benefits and simply pay the writer for the work they produce. Could it be easier?

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I Teach…

coachWhen any of us start something new, we know that we have expectations. But is it what you really want? What is your purpose for seeing a life coach? Before you achieve anything, you should have an expectation of what you’d like to end up with. In this blog article, I’d like to explore some common goals for seeing a life coach. Let’s see if you fit the bill…

To Create Clarity

It’s highly likely that a life coach will ask you powerful questions, which help you drill down to how internal and external factors are really affecting you, enabling you to see things as they really are and not worse than they are. With this clarity, you can then move forward unhindered to achieve your goals.

To Develop a Strong Feeling of Belief in Yourself

Building strong foundations and positive belief systems within yourself will enable you to develop an unshakeable belief in yourself and your capabilities, which gives you the confidence to pursue your dreams and not be limited by the perceptions of others.

To Raise Your Standards

Life coaching teaches you the important lesson that the route to happiness is not based on the uncertainty of the external world meeting your expectations, but on the certainty that you will live by the high standards that you have set for yourself.

To Set Important Boundaries

Lowering your expectations does not mean you should be a total pushover. Life coaching helps you learn to respect yourself and demand the respect of others by setting clearly communicated boundaries and acting immediately to enforce a boundary if someone crosses it.

To Stay on the Track of Love, Not Fear

Life operates on two tracks, the track of love and the track of fear. Living in the track of fear will mean you never reach your true potential, and your life will be severely challenged. Living in the track of love will bring more positive energy into your life and allow you to focus on that which adds value to your existence.

How to Develop Focus

Many people live unfocused, unbalanced lives where they struggle to get things done and never quite get to where they want to go. Life coaching reduces those “squirrel” moments so that you stay focused and in control, which is a more helpful state of being to achieve great results.

How to Take Action

Life coaching gives you access to the rewards of taking action and making positive steps forward rather than procrastinating or being purely reactionary. You can start to make things happen rather than be passive and let things happen to you.

How to Take Personal Responsibility

Working with a life coach allows you to realize that blame, resentment, anger and other negative emotions are unhelpful, and that taking personal responsibility and being accountable will put you in a more powerful position of living a life of integrity.

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I Speak…

People make mistakes in presentations every single day of the week. It’s nothing new. But why do these mistakes happen? What constitutes poor public speaking? I’ve put together a list of reasons that may tell the story of why a speech may have gone wrong, or a presentation may have fallen on deaf ears… Let’s take a look at the list, shall we?

Poor Breathing Habits Mean Poor Speaking

Have you been trained as a singer or stage actor? If you haven’t, the chances are good that you’re unaware of the best method of breathing for speech. Public speaking requires a larger reservoir of air, for instance, than breathing for life. Equally important, your exhalation needs to be more controlled so you can sustain vocalized sound to the ends of phrases, where the most important words usually reside. Diaphragmatic breathing is the key. It’s also an important method of calming your galloping heart during fear of public speaking, and of course for keeping you from audibly gasping for air when you run out of breath due to nervousness—a huge no-no when making a public presentation.

Are You Self-Conscious?

This is probably the most frequently named reason people feel performance anxiety while speaking. It’s very common for a speech coach to hear: “I’m fine talking to small groups. But when it’s a large audience, I get really anxious.” Remember that the people in a sizable audience are exactly the same ones you talk to individually, and try to concentrate on having a conversation with your listeners. You’ll be at your best in every way.

Fear of Appearing Nervous

You may fear that you’ll look fearful on stage. With that in mind, you may make a leap of poor faith and tell yourself that once the audience notices your nervousness, everyone will realize you don’t really know your topic. Of course, the two aren’t linked at all. For instance, if you see that a speaker is nervous, what do you think? It’s probably sympathy—and with that sympathy, the audience will work with you.

Are They Judging Me?

The tough love message concerning this fear of public speaking is that people really don’t care about you. They’re in the audience to get something out of your appearance. They truly would like their time to have been well spent in coming to see you. You can also console yourself with the knowledge that watching a speaker fail is embarrassing for all who see it. With that in mind, you can be assured that the audience is actually rooting for you.

Failure in the Past Means Failure in the Present

Public speaking anxiety is often a side effect of learned behavior. You failed at some point in an important or high-profile speaking situation, and the seed of failure was planted. Of course, if you know your stuff and have done your research, there’s absolutely no reason something that happened once in the past will occur ever again. Not, that is, unless you tell yourself it will and subconsciously get ready for it. Plan to succeed instead. Always look for success, rather than failure.

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I Write…

writingFor most companies and successful individuals there is an understanding. This understanding is a simple one—it says “content sells.” But how do you get content? Do you have time to sit in your busy life and write content? That’s why many successful companies, individuals, and entities use ghost writers to create content for them and here’s why…

Easy and Efficient

Ghost-writers can manage the process of blog or article writing from beginning to end. They will interview and capture the content needed to establish a solid point of view, follow up directly with your content experts, gain approvals and make any necessary changes before delivering a final version. They work without any need for you to supervise. Just like a well-oiled machine.

The Voice

This is one of the most important reasons to bring a ghost-writer on board – although it might have been a show-stopper for you before now. The truth is that experienced ghost-writers have written many hundreds—thousands even—of blogs and articles for companies, so they know exactly how to capture the voice of content owners.

Research…. Who Does It?

Ghost-writers are expert researchers, which means they can fact-check and provide supporting statistics and meaningful industry information that will enrich the content owner’s blog and content. They can add links to sources for extra search engine boosts, too. Can your overworked secretary do this as a side job? Not as efficiently.

Busy, Busy, Busy Media Calendar

A ghost-writer working for you can develop a full year of frequently published content. Timely and continuous publishing of content can help increase your company’s brand as your content owners get more and more recognition in the industry. Busy means successful—remember that.

A Penny Saved Is a Penny Earned…

If your need for content is large enough, you could add an additional resource to your staff. But most marketing managers find it’s more economical and just plain easier to have an outside resource fill this need, as you only need to call upon a ghost-writer when needed and pay less per project that you would with a writer on salary.

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I Teach…

once uponMeeting a life coach for the first time can be a confusing affair. When you first enter into a relationship with a coach it’s important for you to realize that you have to take responsibility for what will happen. I think this is the idea time to share with you a few questions that you may want to ask yourself—and your coach.

What is it that I want to accomplish?

You may have specific goals or your goal may be to get more clarity around your goals. Be clear on what you want to accomplish to invest your energy in the most beneficial way.

What kind of coach do I need?

There are a variety of coaches, who fall under titles such as executive coach, nutritional coach, spiritual guide, healer, holistic coach, or life coach. Some focus on business, relationships, health and wellness, or life in general. Set a clear intention to find the most perfect coach for you. Know what is important to you and look for that in your coach.

What results have they achieved?

Check their references. Do you like the results they have achieved with their other clients? Are those the types of results you are looking for? While results will vary on the individual, you can see what the coach values. If the coach has a list of clients who made their first million and that is your goal, then it may be the perfect fit. If you are looking for more inner peace, a list of people who have made millions might not be the right coach for you.

What have they achieved in their own life?

Does the coach live the type of life you respect? If you are looking for peace in your life, does your coach give you the sense of serenity? Is your goal more confidence and they exude strength? Are they using their own tools to manifest their dreams? While your coach may not live exactly the same way as you in the physical realm, they may just have something inside, like clarity of purpose, which is your greatest desire.

Is the coach truly giving me advice?

You have all the inner resources you need to solve even your most complicated problems. While it may feel good in the short term to have someone answer the questions for you for a variety of reasons, the best coaches will provide you with a safe environment and framework to guide you to the answers within your heart. This also allows you to build the skills you need when your coach is not around.

Do I really have chemistry with the coach?

You are going to spend your valuable time with your coach. Do you actually like them as a person? Do you trust them? You need a coach you trust to open up to and really get to the heart of the matter. The more open and authentic you can be, the more you will get out of the relationship with your coach. If you do not trust them, trust yourself – and select another person.

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I Speak…

fear1One of the toughest parts of public speaking is defining your audience and knowing how to work their interest to your favor. This blog article is all about the act of entertaining—entertaining your audience and allowing them to get the most out of your speech.

Movement… Is Your Food

When it comes to using body language, you should be asking yourself: “How can I use movement and gestures to be effective in my presentation?” Here’s an easy formula to remember, one that will help you avoid sleepy audience… Neutral, Open, Defined, and Strong. You should begin in a neutral position with hands at your sides. That keeps you open to your audience, so that influence flows freely in both directions. Gesture sparingly, using defined or “clean” hand movements, and make them strong.

Your Voice

As I mention above, your voice is physical, so it’s obviously a component of effective body language. In fact, aside from your brain, your voice is the most flexible communication instrument you own.

So you should learn how to use your voice to influence others. I don’t mean only in terms of voice and speech improvement. I’m also referring to the many ways vocal expressiveness helps you indicate meaning and intention.

Listen to speakers good and bad, and listen some more. Take a voice and diction course. Or work with a speech coach, preferably one who trained as an actor. One thing to strive for is to find your “true voice.” Literally and figuratively, it can make a radical difference in whether your real message is heard.

Using Space to Your Advantage

When you speak in public, a certain amount of space on the stage is yours by right. You should claim it! Leaders know how to project power by the way they stand and move; and of course, when you speak in public, you are a leader. Learn how to occupy space in a way that proclaims you’re comfortable in the spotlight. Nothing demonstrates confidence like a speaker who is at ease in their own skin in front of an audience.

When you speak, the stage is your world. Show your audience that they can have confidence in what you’re telling them by commanding the space around you. Don’t be overly dramatic, but don’t minimize the area through which you move.

Technology, Items and You

Stage actors know that good actors use props, and bad actors are used by their props. This isn’t just a witticism. Inexperienced performers are discombobulated by a property—a cigarette holder, a wine glass, even a sword or a gun. Solid professionals, on the other hand, understand that the prop exists to help them define their character for the audience. So they use it in a way only that character would.

When you deal with objects in a presentation, from a remote clicker to a handout to the slide screen itself, find a way to help that object further your message and its impact. The object is there for a reason. How can it help you get your message across?

Facial Expressiveness

We might call this the forgotten relative in the family. Yet the human face is vital to communication, from recognizing another person to understanding the subtle clues that underlie motive. Audience members depend upon your facial expressions to augment meaning.

If you don’t have an expressive face, work with a mirror to create a link between what you’re trying to express verbally, and how your facial expressions make your meaning clear. As part of your practice, give your entire talk without a sound coming out of your mouth even though you form all the words, letting your face do all the communicating.

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I Teach…

once uponThis blog article is about how you can get the most out your life coach. Seeing a Life Coach is like anything in life—the more you put it, the more you will get out. You can’t expect the Life Coach to do all of the work—so how do you turn your sessions into success? Let’s find out…

Keep Your Mind Open

There is no set way to get “there.” Allow your coach to take you to places that you have not considered before. Open yourself up to the possibility that your perspective can be shifted.  A good coach will prod you into places where you may not like to go, but with an open mind, work on trusting the process. The key to Life Coaching is keeping your mind open!

Preparation

Is there something specific going on that you really want to talk about? Is there an experience from the week that you want to share? Do you have questions about the process, or have questions come up for you during the week? Do you need a reminder about a tool that was discussed? The best thing you can do is put pen to paper at some point before the session and make some notes about things that are important to you. This is an excellent way to practice getting your needs met. If you can practice and get good at this with your coach, then you will be able to transfer that skill to other areas of your life.

Be Ready 

Before the session, take a minute to assess your needs. Did you eat this morning? Do you need to go to the bathroom? Does the dog need to go out? The more you can do to create a space for you to work uninterrupted, the more in the flow and in the moment you can be during your session. This is deep work that cannot fully happen when you have distractions around you.

Be Comfortable

Make a warm drink and sit in a comfy spot. You have booked this time to work on the most important thing in your life… YOU. Allow it to be your time by working towards making the most of this time by setting yourself to feel supported and comfortable in your own space.

Be Noteworthy

Get yourself a notebook with a place where you can put the date and make notes throughout the session.  Coaching sessions go by very quickly, and a lot of information comes up. Bring a notebook and pen and allow yourself to jot random words, phrases, and points. You will also be encouraged from time to time to write down specific things that are essential to your journey. Have a book where you can capture this all. This then becomes your resource for the time in between sessions.

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I Speak…

fear1Writing your speech is one thing—but performing it in front of others is another thing altogether. When you’ve written your speech, you may want to rehearse every inch of your performance. Just like acting, you need to think about a variety of things—the audience, your content, your emotions and the structure of your speech. This blog is all about preparation—let’s get to it!

Rehearse the Content

The first rehearsal is for the content. The first time, just try to get the words out. Don’t worry about what actors call ‘blocking’ — how you might move around. Just get the words out. Find out if anything needs to be changed or fixed. See how long it takes and how well the transitions work. Test it.

The Structure

Audiences today expect speakers to do more than simply read from a script or PowerPoint slide deck. They expect a more intimate conversation. As a result, it pays for the speaker to know the basic logical flow of the speech — not the exact words, but the main points, in order. Ideally, that’s what a speaker has in his or her head when he/she bounds up on stage and begins to chat with the audience. Get the logic of the speech down in a bulleted outline, and practice that. Rehearse just running through that outline, as if it were a very brief explanation. Then, embellish it by adding your supporting facts, your stories, and so on. Work your way up to the whole speech.

Rehearse Your Conversation

Work on finding out how you’re going to stand, to move, and where during the speech you need to do what. Don’t worry so much about getting the words perfect, but do feel the speech as a dynamic production of your body. Ideally, you’ll have someone tape you, so you can see how you’re doing.

Many people don’t think they need to walk through a speech physically — I’ll just run through the points in my head — but you do need to rehearse. I can always tell someone who hasn’t rehearsed, because sooner or later you’ll catch that deer-in-the-headlights look as the speaker thinks to himself, “I didn’t see that coming.”

Rehearse the Emotions

Emotion is captivating. We like to watch it on TV, which is why so many people watch reality TV shows even though they know they shouldn’t. We praise great actors and singers because they are practiced emoters. We even elect former actors to be president because they’re able to look authentic doing what they do best: playing a part. Don’t overlook the emotions of a presentation or speech.

Watch Yourself

Videotape yourself or use a tape recorder if you’ll be speaking on radio, in a webinar, or on a conference call. You literally need to experience yourself as others will. Watch, listen, and work on the rough spots. A painful activity? It can be. Is it helpful? Always!

Today’s digital recording equipment makes this aspect of rehearsing easier and more mobile than ever before. Make use of it!

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